Be the Dad She Needs You to Be by Dr. Kevin Leman
My daughter just went off to her first day of kindergarten at the local school in our area and I was not ready for this at all. You pray and your guide and direct your daughter’s life, but you cannot possibly protect her from everything. Yet, as Dr. Kevin Leman’s new book, Be the Dad She Needs You to Be, there are many things to consider when raising a daughter. The book in 11 chapters with a conclusion takes everything from investing in your daughter’s life, sex, the workplace, and the way dads parent differently than moms. Dr. Leman cuts to the chase at times, gives his advice, and brings his years of counseling to bear in this book on dads/daughters.
Kevin gets to the heart of the issues that matter most at the beginning of the book by stating, “If you have a negative legacy from your own father, or if your wife has one from her father, it’s time to stop the cycle. Your daughter deserves your absolute best (7).” Being engaged has its benefits beyond the present but dads don’t always see it that way. Daughters deserve the absolute best from their dads because God has created them as the sole father and caretaker of his children, no one else on this earth is their father. No one replace a father. Kevin emphasizes that it is not the times of great resources that our daughters remind, but the times we took our time with them to do the little things, this is what memories are made of.
One of the clearest expressions of a father’s love for his daughter comes in the way he loves her. Kevin writes, “Making each daughter feel special and uniquely loved is one of the best gifts a father can give his daughter (146).” This might come in knowing what kind of donut she likes or her favorite friend at school or it could mean knowing exactly what questions to ask about her life. Kevin makes it a point of emphasis that being involved in your daughter’s life is not the same as buying them an iPad and sending them to another room. No, being intentional is knowing them in the way that you would know your wife’s likes, her passions, and her goals. That daddy-daughter connection is so important.
I really enjoyed this book and know you will too.
Thanks to BookLookBloggers and Thomas Nelson for the review copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.